You call a friend, and he seems glad to hear from you. Yet another week passes without him calling first. Eventually, you wonder whether the friendship matters as much to him.
I think that question deserves an honest conversation before it becomes a private verdict. Research led by Peggy Liu found that people underestimated how much others appreciated an unexpected message. Your invitation may matter more than you realize. Your wish to receive one matters too.
Paul writes to his fellow believers, “I thank my God every time I remember you” (Philippians 1:3, NIV). His letter expresses affection for people who shared his work for Jesus. We can learn from his willingness to tell people they matter.
Tell your friend you enjoy hearing from him and would appreciate him calling sometimes. Give him room to explain what makes contact difficult. Then notice how he responds over time. You can ask for care without making him guess what you need.
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